Passion and aversion, two opposite poles full of energy where constantly we wander. Should we deliver our love and passion to the fullest? Or perhaps, should we not show our true feelings so they do not hurt us?
You start to meet a man and think that is the ultimate, you change messages and letters, dinners and nights of passion. You give full but when you realize he is gone. It has disappeared from your life without you noticing.
Why did this happen? You start thinking it’s your entire fault, to analyze every detail to know exactly what you’ve done wrong. It all seemed perfect at first time and gradually you saw more and more distant.
You remember is not the first time this happens to you. Several occasions have already been where you know that person who seemed had so much in common, you saw that he was also interested in you, indeed, he wrote all day and said you he could not go a single minute without you because you were the woman of his life.
These situations occur more than usual, and it is because we do not know manage and administer properly the energy flowing between the poles of passion and aversion.
What are the poles of passion and aversion?
Thousands of years ago, Heraclitus of Ephesus, a Greek philosopher, established the Theory of opposites. This theory believes that everything in the universe is expressed between opposites: hot and cold; love and hate; friendship and enmity, health and disease, youth and old age, wealth and poverty.
Everything seems to have its opposite, and the war between these opposites is the queen of everything. The fight between opposing elements is the universal principle that governs all realms of being.
Other theories related to opposites, for example, are the yin and yang of that’ve probably heard. The yin (feminine principle) and yang (male principle) are two complementary forces, but at the opposite time that through good interaction gets the balance. When yin decreases, yang grows, and viceversa.
As can be seen in relation to these two theories, hatred is as important as love, because without hatred, we would not value the true importance of his opponent.
Without that we realize, in our daily life we use all our energy to move between opposites. We work to keep us of poverty pole, we use cosmetic creams to turn away from old age, do sport and we eat properly to keep us from disease pole.
But in relationships, these opposite poles also act. Attraction and repulsion, love and hate, excitation and inhibition, trust and mistrust, companionship and loneliness, passion and aversion.
In the book “Adventures of the Mystics” we find a reflection on this theory of the poles between passion and aversion that correctly expresses this idea:
“Passion is the energy field between two poles. If the distance between two people is removed, the field will be downloaded immediately. And if there will be distance between them, the attraction between the sexes will increase. So the ancient people lived: their homes had a male part and a female, even poor people had this distribution. They tried not contact each other in vain, remained at a distance, because it helped keep the passion. Even the children studied and lived separately because the constant daily relationship makes his fire fade. It is no wonder there is a saying: “Have few encounters with good friends”. To book the newness and brightness of the meeting, people should prepare for it, filled with positive experiences, so that this meeting is a real pleasure”.
As we have learned in this book full of wisdom, properly handle this energy field is crucial for a relationship stays alive.
Delivering all our energy to our partners at the beginning of a relationship can cause this energy field is destabilized and our partner away from us. We should not make the mistake of avoiding that person more than necessary, since aversion can cool the relationship.
Virtue is in the balance. Show that we need that person, show our love and spend time with her so that the attraction between the two poles is maintained.
You ponder for a moment; remember that trip for professional reasons that made your partner was away from home for a week? Do you remember the moment of reunion?
Sure sparks flew and needed to be with you 24 hours.
That’s because the energy circulating between the two opposite was closer to the aversion, and to find the balance between the two poles it was needed large doses of passion.
As you have observed, managing and maintaining a balance of power in the relationship is crucial to this work.
The Adventures of the Mystics book is full of lessons and reflections on love and advice and experiences on the management of this energy.
From New Century Books, we hope these tips have been helpful to solve your problems with your partner and keep alive and full of love your relationship.
